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Kristen, Unfiltered
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Welcome to Kristen, Unfiltered—a safe space where faith meets fire, healing meets honesty, and nothing is sugarcoated. I’m Kristen: a Christian wife, fibro warrior, and mental health survivor living with BPD, OCD, and chronic pain.
Here, I write about the unspoken moments—marriage struggles, faith in the dark, flare-ups, trauma, joy, shame, boundaries, and breakthroughs. This isn’t a highlight reel. This is real life: raw, holy, messy, and mine.
Whether I’m clinging to scripture, navigating a splitting episode, or choosing grace in the middle of grief—you’re invited. No masks. No pretending. Just Jesus, journals, and the journey.
If you're healing through hardship, fighting for peace, or learning to love yourself without conditions—you belong here.
This is my heart, unfiltered.
Let’s walk this road together.
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My Mental Health, Framed
I asked ChatGPT, as this trend on TikTok suggested, to interpret what my mental health would look like if it were a portrait hanging in a museum... Then I asked it to explain the portrait to me. What came back was uncomfortably accurate... And unexpectedly tender. _______________________ 🎨 Title on the plaque: The Woman Who Feels Too Much (And Still Stays Oil on Canvas 🖼️ What the portrait shows: In the painting, you sit at the center, lit like you are the main exhibit. You
Kristen Scott
8 minutes ago3 min read
Chronic Illness Is a Life Sentence
There is no gentle beginning to my days... Sometimes the medication comes before I even open my eyes. Sometimes it comes in the middle of the night, when pain drags me out of sleep and I take more just to make it through the dark hours... Sleep is never whole. It is broken and shallow... Interrupted by pain, bathroom trips, and trips to the freezer. Ice caps for my head. Ice packs for my back. Over and over again. Get up. Pee. Replace the ice. Go back to bed. Repeat. When m
Kristen Scott
48 minutes ago4 min read
New Year Without Resolutions
New Year’s resolutions look different when you are chronically ill. I saw a tiktok today that stopped me in my tracks... It said that while others hope to level up, chase dreams, and make big moves, people like us hope for fewer flare ups, more energy, less pain, and the strength to keep going. Someone commented that they forgot what it even feels like to feel normal... I hearted it. That comment hit harder than anything else. Because that is the part no one wants to talk ab
Kristen Scott
2 hours ago3 min read
Subtle Changes, Big Impact
When I was little, I used to look at those motorized carts in stores and just assume they were for the elderly. For the disabled. For the handicapped. I knew they existed, but in my head they belonged to a category I never imagined I’d understand this early in life... Not because I thought I was better than anyone. Just because… you don’t grow up expecting your body to become something you have to manage. You don’t grow up imagining that a simple trip to Walmart could feel li
Kristen Scott
Jan 2010 min read
The Crash After the Joy
Nobody talks about the crash after the joy. The part where the trip ends and your body doesn’t bounce back like everyone else’s does. The part where “normal” memories cost you days of recovery. We had the best Christmas. We made core memories. We laughed. We traveled. We celebrated. And then we drove home. Road trip day one looked like breakfast at Starbucks, Buc-ee’s for lunch, Panera for dinner, and a Holiday Inn stop. Sometimes it’s about endurance, not distance. And road
Kristen Scott
Jan 152 min read
Florida Is One Hell of a Drug
Taylor was right. Florida really is one hell of a drug. When you grow up in it, it never really leaves your system... It’s in your bones. Your memories. Your nervous system. Your soul. I lived in Florida my whole life...minus a few years in Dallas, Texas when I was little. Adrian and moved away together in 2022… and this trip was just Christmas vacation… but the second the car doors shut, the road stretched south, and the air changed… my body remembered... The sunsets. The sa
Kristen Scott
Jan 154 min read
Home in the Middle of Healing
There’s something about this season that felt quieter than usual... Not because it wasn’t full… but because it was full in a different way. Full of slower moments... Full of small traditions... Full of love that looks more like care than chaos... This year, Thanksgiving felt like home. We started the morning with cinnamon rolls, and we went straight into turkey prep. The house smelled warm before the day even began... But my favorite part wasn’t the food… it was our traditi
Kristen Scott
Jan 153 min read
When “In Sickness and In Health” Gets Real
The past few months have been the most mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically exhausting weeks of our lives. I was barely on my phone during the hospital stay except to update our immediate family, and the first few weeks home was nonstop appointments, medications, follow ups, and caring for Adrian. Everything has felt like survival mode, like we have been living in a blur of fear, adrenaline, exhaustion, and prayer. On November 6th, while at work, my husband had
Kristen Scott
Jan 156 min read
🥄 A Day Measured in spoons
I start the day with 20 spoons That’s all the energy I have, and I never know how long they’ll last. Every choice either saves one or spends one. Living with fibromyalgia means my body feels like it’s already halfway through the day before it even begins. --- Morning Stay in bed (1 spoon) or Get up (3 spoons) I get up. It takes effort just to sit, stretch, and find balance. My body feels the ache In my spine and Joints before my feet even touch the floor, especially then. 17
Kristen Scott
Oct 19, 20254 min read
🕊️ Happy OCD Awareness Month
Happy OCD Awareness Month to the hours spent crafting and rereading, rewriting words, reordering thoughts, adjusting every line until it finally feels right. Happy OCD Awareness Month to the prayers I whisper over and over, not because I doubt God, but because I fear what happens if I stop. Happy OCD Awareness Month to the way my brain clings to unfinished conversations like open tabs I can’t close. Happy OCD Awareness Month to the little girl who lined up her Disney figurine
Kristen Scott
Oct 19, 20252 min read
Befriending My Dragons
When I first learned about the dragons that live inside us- the ones born from trauma, loss, and childhood pain- I didn’t realize how many of mine had been roaring for years. But healing has taught me something incredible. You don’t slay your dragons. You befriend them. You learn their language, understand what they were protecting, and finally let them rest. I discovered mine throughThrough my healing journey, my faith, and learning from Dr. Daniel Amen’s book Your Brain Is
Kristen Scott
Oct 19, 20253 min read
25 lessons for a Thriving Marriage
Marriage is both a gift and a responsibility. It is a daily choice to love, grow, forgive, and build together. These lessons, drawn from real experience, are the things that have shaped our marriage, healed our hearts, and taught us what love really looks like in action. --- 1. Say “I love you” every night. One day you may find the other side of the bed empty and wish you had said it more often. Never underestimate the power of three simple words that tie your hearts together
Kristen Scott
Oct 19, 20257 min read
The Woman in the Walls
By Kristen, Unfiltered Xo 💋 ...I’ve watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer since I was ten. It’s woven into my story the way old songs live in your bones. But sometimes a scene doesn’t just land... it arrives... like it’s been waiting for you to grow into it. That’s what happened when I rewatched “Restless” (Season 4 finale) and saw Buffy find her mom, Joyce, living inside the wall. --- 💤 Buffy’s dream In Buffy’s dream, she walks through familiar spaces .... part dorm, part high
Kristen Scott
Oct 15, 20253 min read
I HATE the Pain Scale Question (Chronic Illness Edition)
If you live with chronic illness, you already know what I’m about to say... the pain scale question is a TRAP!! Every appointment, every ER visit, every new doctor... it’s always the same: “On a scale of one to ten, how bad is your pain?” And I freeze... Because... which pain are we talking about exactly? My back pain? My fibromyalgia flare? My migraines? The burning in my legs? The ache in my joints? The stabbing in my ribs? The stiff, tight pain in my neck that pulls when I
Kristen Scott
Oct 14, 20254 min read
Pressed Flowers, Not Poisoned Gardens 🥀
I read something recently that stayed with me: you can keep a pressed flower tucked away in a book without needing to hold on to the...
Kristen Scott
Oct 3, 20252 min read
Broken, Humbled, Rebuilt, Restored
There’s a rhythm to the way God works in our lives. First comes the breaking, then the humbling, then the isolation, then the rebuilding....
Kristen Scott
Sep 7, 20253 min read
When Family Conflict Finds You: Protecting Your Peace with God
Sometimes in life, conflict shows up at your door when you didn’t ask for it. It might be a sudden phone call, a message out of nowhere,...
Kristen Scott
Sep 6, 20252 min read
Journal Reflection – A Cozy Day with My Boys 🐾✨
Today was a peacful, rainy day. Outside the rain fell heavy but Inside was a love filled day...curled up at home with Zen and Shadow as...
Kristen Scott
Sep 4, 20252 min read
I Bet She’ll Be Pretty
People say to me....“One day, when If you have a daughter, I bet she’ll be pretty.” Hmm...Pretty what? I say... Pretty bold?? Pretty loud...
Kristen Scott
Sep 3, 20254 min read
Learning to Speak the Languages of Love & Repair
We’ve all heard of the Love Languages -the five different ways we give and receive love: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving...
Kristen Scott
Aug 30, 20259 min read
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