What's your purpose?

That question feels huge, doesn’t it?

If anyone’s ever asked you, "What’s your purpose?" you probably paused, blinked, maybe even froze a little. I know I did. And still do sometimes.

Because here’s the truth:

Most people tie purpose to performance. To achievement. To something loud.

It gets tangled up in:

Your job title

Your salary

Your marriage

Whether or not you have kids

How productive or successful you are

And when life doesn’t look how the world says it should, it can leave you wondering, *"Do I have a purpose at all?"

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My Purpose Used to Be Tied to Productivity

When I worked, I never really questioned what my purpose was. I was on the go, bringing in money, buying what I needed, living with independence. That felt like purpose. Until it wasn’t.

Now, I’m in a season where I’m disabled, out of work, managing chronic illness, mental health, and emotional healing. And for a while, I didn’t know what to say when people asked, "What do you do?" or worse, "What’s your purpose?"

But God has been quietly, lovingly shifting that question in me for awhile now...

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Purpose Isn't Loud

Purpose isn’t always tied to a platform, a job, or public success. Sometimes it’s tied to how you show up when no one sees you.

Some days my purpose is:

Showing up for myself when I want to shut down

Nurturing emotional safety and connection in my marriage

Healing old patterns that once kept me in survival mode

Practicing patience with my healing and learning to trust God with the unknown

Taking time to invest in my therapy, my faith, my relationships, and my future

That’s not small. That’s real....

It’s purpose under construction.

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So What’s My Purpose Now?

If someone asked me that big question today, here’s what I’d say:

My purpose is to heal...to love deeply...to walk closely with God, and reflect His grace in my relationships...especially in my marriage. I want my life to be a witness of what God can restore, even in the hardest moments.

And if they want more?

I’m in a season of preparing for motherhood, continuing my healing, sharing my testimony, and using every ordinary moment...whether that’s loving my husband well or resting when my body needs it...as a way to draw closer to God and shine His love to others.

I want to be a wife who grows beside her husband, a daughter who brings healing to her family line, a friend who offers comfort, and a future mother who raises children in truth and grace. I want my life to echo God's redemption, not just in the big moments...but in the quiet ones too.

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My purpose Declaration

I may not have a job title right now.

I may not have a paycheck or a career path right now.

But I have something sacred:

I have a heart that’s learning to stay soft...

I have a story that is being rewritten by God...

I have a husband I do life with and am creating a life with...

I have a home I’m learning to care for without pressure...

I have a mind that is slowly healing...through therapy and reflection...

And I have a calling to become the woman, wife, and mother

that God dreamed of when He knit me together.

That is my purpose.

And I’m walking in it every day.

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Scripture:

"The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever." -Psalm 138:8

Kristen, Unfiltered Xo 💋